In a recent article entitled Women, You Don’t Have to Be Loud To Be Good Leaders, the author, Stephanie Beck, makes a case for the value of quiet leadership. Think Bill Gates. Think E. F. Hutton.
You don’t need to be an outspoken, aggressive person to lead. It’s time for women to stop mimicking one version of an extroverted executive, stop pushing for conformity. It’s damaging on a personal level, and it hurts the women’s movement as a whole.
It comes down to respect. If your team respects who you are and what you have to say and the direction you are taking the team, you don’t have to be loud to lead.
Alyssa Gregory offers up the “must haves” of a quiet leader to be successful in her article How to Be a Quiet Leader:
Quiet leaders are powerful. They focus on action instead of words and are able to generate excitement, encourage ownership and develop loyalty in unique ways. But it’s not easy to become an effective quiet leader. There are many factors that come into play if you are going to be successful at leading quietly, including:
- Earning the respect of your team
- Displaying confidence, but not overconfidence
- Being understanding, compassionate and open-minded
- Thinking laterally, not hierarchically
- Having a likable and relatable personality
- Being approachable and easy to talk to
Message to the Shy
You may have believed in the past that because you are shy you do not have what it takes to be a leader. Not true. Also, keep in mind that just because someone is loud doesn’t make them a good leader. There are many positive attributes to quiet leaders, first being they tend to be good listeners. Think about a meeting you’ve attended; there is that one person who dominates the conversation and there is usually one that is sitting back taking it all in. When the quiet person speaks, people tend to listen because they share, not only their opinion but how it reflects all they’ve heard around the table up to that point.
Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, the author of The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength, describes introverts as not being the same as shy people, who are often fearful, anxious and self-centered. Rather, introversion is a hardwired orientation, Kahnweiler says, in which introverts process information internally, keep matters private, and avoid showing emotion and exhibit calm natures. She describes 5 key characteristics of introverted leaders:
- They think first and talk later. They consider what others have to say, then reflect and then respond;
- They focus on depth, not superficiality. They like to dig deeply into issues and ideas before considering new ones; like meaningful rather than superficial conversations.
- They exude calm. In times of crisis, in particular, they project reassuring, unflappable confidence.
- They prefer writing to talking. They are more comfortable with the written word, which helps them formulate the spoken word.
- They embrace solitude. They are energized by spending time alone and often suffer from people exhaustion. They need a retreat, from which they emerge with renewed energy and clarity.
If you are quiet and shy, if you would classify yourself as introverted, please don’t discount your leadership abilities. Remember that it is self-confidence, purpose, respect and a clear direction that make for effective leadership and you don’t have to yell to succeed!